Former Classmates Fess Up About Their High School Tormentors' Current Lives, Revealing Some Surprising Outcomes

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Former Classmates Fess Up About Their High School Tormentors' Current Lives, Revealing Some Surprising Outcomes

Top Comment @uniqueprincess39 11 hours agoJun 9, 202512:19 am

I dealt with bullies too. I'm mixed race so the black kids bullied me because I wasn't 'Black enough.' Some white kids bullied me for being Mexican and Middle Eastern (btw, I'm not lol). What I realized was that these kids were just spouting the same racist, homophobic, nationalistic crap they heard growing up from their parents. Let me tell you, kids aren't natural born bullies. They're just parents' unfortunate legacy. It's a damn shame.

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  • @coolchair46 4 hours ago

Siameeee!! At school, I wasn't black enough or white enough for the other kids. They didn't believe my name was in Swahili because my name isn't 'Black enough.' + @purpleorc394 3 hours ago

Ditto! (I'm Irish-Mexican). I didn't necessarily feel bullied, but I did feel like I needed to work harder to fit in and be accepted by my peers.* @savorycake5953 8 hours ago

I was a good kid for the first years of school, but in fourth grade, I started to bully kids who used to be my friends. Luckily, a teacher sat me down and basically told me, "Hey girl, you ain't gonna like the person you're becoming if you continue down this path." I felt so ashamed I just withdrew and became a quiet loner for the rest of my school years. It wasn't until I grew up and went to therapy that I made the connection - in fourth grade, my stepdad started verbally and physically abusing me. I was barely in control of my life at home, so I took my anger out on my classmates. I'm grateful my teacher had the sense to put an end to my bullying and help me redirect my path. But as a teacher, I know that there could be a reason a kid is acting out or being cruel. There might be a reason.* @smellycowboy28 10 hours ago

One of my bullies got sent to prison for several years for physically and sexually abusing his girlfriend's daughters. He was a real sociopathic, sadistic motherfucker.* @kbaker90 11 hours ago

I'm surprised so many people know what happened to the people who used to bully them. Social media makes it easier, I guess. I haven't felt the need to look them up, though - even though we're no longer connected, I don't want them taking up space in my life. + @torbielillies 9 hours ago

Depends on the context. I ran into my bully in a few shops when she moved into my neighborhood. She recently reached out to me, telling me she wanted to apologize for some of the things she said and did back in school.* @funnylittleman Edited 1 hour ago

One of my bullies tried to sexually assault my friend at our end-of-school party (you Americans might call it a 'prom'). She's quiet and bookish, but she's a black belt in multiple martial arts. When he made his move, she put him in a wheelchair for six months and permanently incapacitated him in such a way that he can never father children. I'm happy about that.* @TudorGirl21 11 hours ago

When we were in our late 20s, my high school bully was killed in a murder-suicide. The news spread all over town. It was sad to see all the people posting about how kind she was and how much she was missed, while knowing what a terrible person she was to me. It took me over a month to work through those feelings in therapy. I've come to terms with the fact that she didn't deserve to die like that and leave her young daughter behind.... + @agamulonniik6rini 5 hours ago

Coulda been a changed woman by then. But also, that's how everyone talks about crime victims, right? They were good people, kind people, blah blah. + @Deadzy 1 hour ago

Agreed. My bully tried to friend me on Facebook once when they overdosed and died. I refused. Thought it was important to disconnect. Weird thing is, I can't feel bad for them. They hurt people, and they tried to ruin someone's life. Their children had an abusive upbringing, and they didn't deserve to be brought into that.* @savorycake5953 8 hours ago

AS I 1 hour agoJun 9, 202510:22 am

For real. Most bullies come from homes of abuse. It's not always black and white. I'm a teacher, and I try to remember that there might be a reason for a kid's behavior. Most bullies I've encountered aren't the sadistic types; they're struggling and making poor choices.* @visionarybee33 12 hours ago

My bully is a TV broadcaster in Northern California doing nature and PBS-type shows. What a jerk.* @youngtortoise663 11 hours ago

My bully died in an overdose a few years ago. I found out from the police reports and newspaper articles about her arrests. It was a real bummer to read stories about how she abused her own child. Her daughter was eventually taken away by her older brother, who's doing a good job raising her.* @Deadzy 1 hour ago

I had a bully who pretended to be my friend and then told everyone our secret conversations. They moved away a few years later and tried to add me on Facebook once. I told them I wasn't interested. Funny thing, they kicked the bucket from an overdose a while back. I didn't find out until I was digging for their obituary. Reading their police report and a newspaper article about their arrest really ticked me off. They hurt someone, and I won't feel bad about it.* @bravecactus868 8 hours ago

The bully from my childhood didn't come to our 10-year reunion, but his lovely sister convinced him to go. We chatted for a bit, and I found out he's trying to become a police officer. He almost didn't come because he thought no one would want anything to do with him. Lots of people change over time; 10 years is a long time to hold grudges. I tried to remember that my bully was a child when he was bullying me; maybe he had a rough home life and didn't know any better.* @toomanykidsnotenoughtime 8 hours ago

I ran into mine at our 20-year reunion. She threatened to beat me up if I talked to her "man" when we were in school. I guess she recently got divorced and has no kids.* @Putzik47 11 hours ago

I was bullied for a semester in high school. Not too bad - I only remember his name, and I don't notice him in the class reunion Facebook group. He seemed to lack ambition. I guess he just wanted to belittle kids who were doing well in school and weren't fighting back.* @sparklytooth49 4 hours ago

My bully, who threatened to kick my ass in pre-K and continued bullying me all the way through school, ended up working at a county jail as a deputy. Two of her former bullies were in custody when I worked there, and it was pretty satisfying to have control over them for once. They died in drug-related incidents. I wish I had martial arts skills when I was a kid; it would have been nice to fight back then.* @Suzieq67 10 hours ago

I was bullied as a skinny, redheaded kid, but I later became friends with one of my bullies, and now we're married with 16 years under our belt.* @silverdaredevil17 4 hours ago

One of my bullies called me ugly as a kid, and her words still ring in my ears. Bullying is the cruelest thing, and it leaves scars.* @melyssarave 4 hours ago

My bully ended up playing for the Kansas City Chiefs before he committed a murder-suicide and was found with CTE. Wish I didn't still think about him.* @kaylachan1990 9 hours ago

The main bully from my childhood failed military training. Now they own a small business with ties to charity. I've been told they've changed. Not sure about that, though.* @sidneyalenec 9 hours ago

Two of my bullies are special education teachers now, and while I hope my former bully has grown up, I'm not sure. I saw her at the reunion, and she was pretty drunk. My former best friend has a degree and a successful life, and overall, I'd say it's been a mixed bag.* @CatsAreBetterThanPeople 1 hour ago

My siblings are bullies. My brother is a total a-hole, acting like it's funny when his kids bully people. I've gone zero contact.* @PROcrastinator 3 hours ago

My sister, who used to be a mean girl and clique leader, is now a nurse. I have mixed feelings about that, but I hope she's kinder to her patients than she was to others.* @srcshaw2 3 hours ago

My main bully from middle school has haunted me by showing up at family events, ever since I moved to a different state. I have no desire to ever speak to them again.* @Dianalia 52 minutes ago

My fourth-grade teacher was my bully. I still have a loathing for her.* @Lynn 1 hour ago

Two girls bullied me and spread rumors that I was a lesbian before I came out later in life. So weird.* @cottoncandyskyyy 2 hours ago

My bully died young from cancer. Maybe she got her comeuppance.* @j4287b3497 3 hours ago

Two bullies from elementary school, one of whom created a rumor about me that was sexual in nature, have horrific lives now. One was in prison for a long time for a murder-related crime, and the other is living in a run-down house and dealing with terrible credit. It's satisfying, but I'm not proud of it.* @Melllvar 3 hours ago

My bully became an NHL player, and he's still gross.* @CourtesyFlush 4 hours ago

My bully went to prison and has a criminal record for assault. My sister, who was the leader of the mean girls in high school, is a nurse now. Karma sure does have a sense of humor.* @greenshark808 1 hour ago

My bully later became a godparent to my child. I'll wait forever to see justice done.* @asaffi 2 hours ago

I moved to a new region to get away from my main bully. Turns out they were doing horrible things like committing murder and taking part in drug dealing operations. I still have the desire to beat their ass, but I'm 6 feet 3 inches tall and had martial arts training. I've calmed down now, but only just barely.* @BestGobbo 6 hours ago

You guys are all pussies who didn't stand up for yourselves against bullies. + @BestGobbo 4 hours ago

Except for you, @icyflower16. You're one of the few who actually fought back. + @pinkturkey236 17 minutes ago

Fighting back depends on the situation. You can't always take on someone bigger than you. Adulthood is a different story, though. With experience and size, you can fight against bullies physically, financially, or socially. But remember, bullies can work in groups, and you can't take on a group of people on your own, regardless of your size or fighting skills. You need to choose your battles wisely.

1. Bullies can come from any background, with @savorycake5953 sharing her story of being a bully herself due to home life issues, later being helped by a teacher to redirect her path.
2. Books and education can serve as a source of strength and learning, as @silverdaredevil17 found friendship with a former bully and @icyflower16 fought back effectively.
3. Social media can provide a platform for staying connected or disconnecting from past bullies, with individuals choosing to avoid peer interactions or reconnect later in life, as in @bravecactus868's experience.
4. Health and wellness can play a role in healing from the effects of bullying, as therapy helped some individuals process their experiences and heal, such as @savorycake5953 and @agamulonniik6rini.
5. News and reviews can offer insight into the life paths of former bullies, giving a sense of closure or a chance to reflect on past experiences, as @ Deadsy's bully's overdose and @toomanykidsnotenoughtime's bully's arrest were discussed.
6. Lifestyle choices, opinions, fashion, and relationships can take on new meanings post-bullying experiences, allowing individuals to reevaluate what is important to them, as @silverdaredevil17 finds love with a former bully and @Suzieq67 marries one.

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