People-pleasing strategy failures: An exploration of reasons.
Hey there folks! Let's dive into the reasons why being a people-pleaser ain't the way to go.
Here's the lowdown on why people-pleasing wreaks havoc for both you and the folks you're trying to help... and it's not pretty!
Check out these videos as part of our People Pleaser series:
- 5 Signs You're a People Pleaser
- Why Doesn't People Pleasing Work? (this one here!)
- How to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Putting Yourself First
So, Why Doesn't People Pleasing Work?
1) People-pleasing obliterates your boundaries – internal and external.
These are the lines you draw within yourself and in your relationships with others. When you're people-pleasing, you blur the lines, making it hard to keep yourself and others in check. This leads to lots of drama in your relationships with yourself and others.
2) People will see you as a doormat, waiting for them to walk all over you.
It becomes the norm for 'em to take advantage of you because you let 'em. This habit doesn't just hurt your relationships with the people you know, it can impact the way others treat each other as well. It's like a domino effect.
3) You won't know where your goals and values end and where others' begin.
Before you know it, you'll be living a life you don't even want because you're too busy pleasing everyone else. Remember, this world ain't for living for other people – it's for livin' for yourself!
Alrighty, I'm ready to bid adieu to people-pleasing!
What's your game plan as a people-pleaser? Is people-pleasing the key to happiness?
It's essential you ponder, "What'm I tryna' achieve as a people-pleaser? What'm my motive? What'm my goal?" Keep in mind, most folks don't even get it. They don't comprehend why you're doin' it.
People-pleasing ain't the answer.
When you people-please, it ain't coming from a genuine place. And that creates a disconnect – it doesn't feel right to you, neither to the folks you're people-pleasing for.
A kinder, more genuine approach...
There's way more value in life when you do nice deeds out of love, compassion, and a genuine want to help others. What if you lent a hand to people without expecting somethin' in return? What if you did things out of the goodness of your heart? Wouldn't that change the way you treat others and the way you approach helpin' 'em out?
Examine your motives. Peel away the layers and discover, "Am I doin' this 'cause I genuinely want to help another person? Or is there something else drivin' it?" ... and keep on diggin' deeper to get to the root of it.
Oh, by the way, if you wanna' dive deeper and explore this further, we can work on that together in one-on-one coaching sessions! Book your sessions here:
Yep! I'm ready to bid goodbye to people-pleasing now.
Now that you know why people-pleasing ain't the way to go, stay tuned for our next video, where we'll talk about how to stop people-pleasing and start puttin' yourself first!
Related posts:
- 5 Signs You're a People Pleaser
- How to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Putting Yourself First
- navigating feelings of "not enough-ness"
- overcoming the sense of being behind in life
In the quest for self-discovery and personal growth, it's crucial to understand that people-pleasing undermines mental health and personal growth. This behavior can lead to a lack of clarity in setting personal goals and values, potentially causing dissatisfaction with one's own life. On a broader scale, it can contribute to an unhealthy culture of health-and-wellness, where individuals prioritize the needs of others over their own, ultimately impacting their own mental health as well as the well-being of society. Instead, focusing on education-and-self-development and genuine acts of kindness can lead to a more fulfilling life, as these actions stem from love, compassion, and a true desire to help others.
